Wedding Thank You Card Etiquette

wedding thank you card etiquette

Wedding Thank You Cards

Congratulations on your wedding! Now it’s time to start writing your wedding thank you cards. It does seem like a mammoth task, but it is both necessary and doable. With our step-by-step guide to wedding thank you card etiquette, we will make it both enjoyable and surprisingly fun! We cover everything you will need to know about wedding thank you card etiquette.

List of Presents

Use your wedding guest list to help you write your gift guide. Write down what you received beside each name (create a separate column if this is on excel). This makes life much easier as you will know what you got and from whom. As you write your cards, check the list off and you will feel a lovely sense of satisfaction! Keep your address list from when you wrote your invitations. This will make it so much easier to address the envelopes.

When To Start

To make life easier start writing your thank you cards as soon as humanly possible – ideally after your honeymoon! Otherwise the task will linger for months and your enthusiasm will dwindle. Also, it will keep anxieties at bay as you do not want to be writing them all at the same time. Aim to get them all done in one week and set aside 30 minutes a night to start tackling them.

Your guests can have up to a year (by tradition) to send you a gift. While unfortunately you on the other hand do not! Send thank you notes within two weeks of receiving a present before the wedding. For all gifts you receive on/after your wedding, you can send thank you cards within three months.

What To Say

Be specific in your note about what gift you received, makes it more personal and shows you are not writing one generic card for everyone. Shows you have made an effort and are truly thankful for the gift.  Also, when you receive money you do not need to mention the exact amount.


This is the fun part! Choose a wedding thank you card that best suits you as a couple. Sending a thank you note with a photo of your wedding on the front gives your friends and family a lasting memento of the special day. Stick with a blue or black pen and make sure it doesn’t smear all over the inside of your cards.  Regardless who writes them make sure to sign using both names!

Best of luck 🙂

Wedding Thank You Card Etiquette

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